I'm so sorry this has happened to you. To be honest, I think it's quite a common experience for all genders and it bloody well sucks, doesn't it? All I can say is that now I understand why it happens, it allows me to feel bad for the people doing it to me, instead of either blaming myself or feeling bad for myself. And being able to spot the signs makes it easier to call out and therefore easier to let the person know what they're unconsciously/semi consciously doing to you. It's a rough dating world out there, so I am with you 100%. Best of luck!